While it’s very tempting to tell someone to “get over it,” this advice will only make things worse. First of all, “get over it” implies that they are weak for feeling their feelings, and will only serve to undermine their own self-worth. Second, it puts you in the center of the conversation, placing yourself in a superior position. We all feel emotions, and the best way to deal with them is to acknowledge them and let them run their course.
The best way to help someone who is grieving is by acknowledging that it’s natural to feel uncomfortable. This may be because grief is such an unfamiliar emotion for most people, and you may be unsure of how to comfort them. You may end up saying or doing something that’s completely inappropriate. In any case, you shouldn’t avoid social contact. Even if you’re uncomfortable, remember that this person is reaching out to you because they want to be close.